Be Your Own Valentine

I thought I’d share my thoughts on self-love in honor of Valentine's Day! Although this day usually means celebrating others, know that the love we freely give deserves also to be directed inward. Don’t wait to show yourself some love if you have been considering counseling! Connect with me for a consultation to get started on your self-love journey.

Self-love can have many forms, so I always encourage people to find what speaks to them. I like to think of self-love as a commitment to honoring myself and making room for more enjoyment.

Self-love Means Honoring Yourself

Speak Your Truth

Speaking your truth means being honest about your feelings, letting others know your boundaries, and sharing your unique perspective in life. Speaking your truth honors your voice rather than people-pleasing. When I stop to think about it, people-pleasing is a true disservice. Not only is people-pleasing exhausting, but it also diminishes your light in the world!

Avoid The Worthy Trap

Self-love means gentle reminders that my accomplishments do not determine my worth. A significant act of self-love recognizes, “I am enough.” No achievements are necessary! Yes, it feels good to have a productive day, but some days are just about getting through.

Self-love Means Making Space For Enjoyment

Enjoy Yourself

Self-love motivates us to look out for our well-being. When we take care of ourselves, we feel better and get more joy out of life. With that in mind, know that perfectionism has no place in self-love. Fulfillment is sucked out of life when we are constantly beating ourselves up. Perfectionism is critical and defeating. Self-love is forgiving and inspiring.

Enjoy Your Life

There is so much to celebrate in life. Self-love helps us make room for meaning which makes us happier. When we live our values (the things that really matter to us, like family or connections), we honor ourselves. There are many junk values in the world demanding your attention. It’s vital to be intentional about making room for what inspires you!

The Bottom Line

The act of self-love can take many forms, but the bottom line is about honoring what you bring to the world and making room for what really matters. Having good self-worth supports us and is available to everyone in so many ways. I know it can be difficult at times but remember that you can access the love you share with others for yourself. Connect with me today if you would like someone to walk alongside you in your self-love journey!